May 7, 2019
If you’re reading this: CONGRATS! You’re engaged! (or about to be). Also, if you’re reading this: DON’T PANIC! Planning your own wedding can be super fun! There is a lot to think about right now and I’m sure it can seem a little overwhelming or daunting but trust us – you can do it. And we want to help! Let’s get right to it.
1. First things first: BUDGETING! Arguably one of the more boring (and scary) parts, so it is best to just get it out of the way! You can also start by creating a binder with ideas & maybe a mood board, but it is always best to know just how much money you can play with before you start planning out your ~vision.
2. A few headaches later, it’s time for something a bit more fun – picking your wedding party! Send out those cute gift baskets (or send a quick text to your friends/siblings – super casual) and decide who you want standing up there with you.
3. From what I’ve seen in movies & tv shows, it seems like this next step is pretty much the worst thing ever but I have faith in you: guest list. I’m not entirely sure why this is seen as such a stressful step, but I suppose the advice would be: do NOT overthink this. At the end of the night, everyone will be a few drinks in, on the dance floor, missing shoes and accessories and bonding like it’s the last day of summer camp. It’ll be fine.
….. Yeah you’ll be fine.
4. From here on out you can choose to hire a planner – they may have connections with venues, vendors etc. If you hire a planner, cool. But you’re going to miss some top-notch light-hearted advice in the rest of this blog post so.. you weigh the cost.
5. If you chose NOT to hire a planner: keep on trekking, friend! And don’t forget to definitely take a break once in a while. Take turns with your partner planning different parts of the day, maybe make a twitter poll and have the people of the internet make decisions for you. To each his/her own really.
6. Next up is: pick the date. Are you a winter wedding person? What about spring? Have you considered this: summer. But also – fall colors. There’s a lot to think about here, but it just comes down to what you feel deep down in your soul. If you want to know the PERFECT date, click here.
7. Next, you’ll want to book your officiant. That way there’s a ceremony and not just a bunch of people staring at you and your partner holding hands. I mean, in theory: adorable, avant garde, modern art. In reality: awkward.
8. This is when you should start looking for your vendors: photographers & videographers (us – hint hint), florists, caterers, bands/djs etc. Do some research before making any decisions (you’ll want them booked at least 8 months in advance)! (book your engagement shoot too if you’re into that!)
9. Design your bouquet & pick your wedding colors! Check out this post if you need some helping choosing colors.
10. Go shopping for a few low-key things, like your wedding dress or tux. No big deal.
11. If you have guests coming in from out of town or if you want to ensure there is a kick ass after party at your local holiday inn: reserve a block of hotel suites for your guests!
12. Register for all of your super cool gifts at your fav retailers. By the way does anyone know if it’s okay to just register for gifts you want on an every day basis. Please let me know because I need a new blender thanks.
13. Purchase your invitations – but save them for sending until about 2 months before the big day.
14. Start brainstorming your honeymoon! And make sure your flights/car rides are way after your hangover has subsided.
15. Help your bridesmaids pick their dresses! Give them your colors and find something that looks great on everyone (or go with the mismatched/complimentary colors route!)
16. Send out your save the date cards with your ultra cute engagement photos all over those bad boys.
17. If you didn’t commit to a florist earlier – pick one now. You’re a little more confident in what your colors are + florists are able to serve multiple clients in one day, so you can wait a bit longer to book.
18. Book any & all transportation you and your guests might need. Limos, busses, bikes, scooters, boats, etc.
19. Book your rehearsal dinner venues and make sure to practice your lines. Break a leg.
20. We are heading into my favorite portion of the planning: cake tasting. Just go absolutely crazy with cake tastings. Cake is amazing and you should have some every day because you’re getting married and you deserve it.
21. Buy your shoes and make sure they are comfortable enough to spend almost all day in – and if they’re not, make sure they’re cheap enough to not feel bad about having to take them off at 4pm.
22. Schedule time to meet with hair & makeup artists! Watch some youtube videos and look at pinterest to have a solid idea of what you want.
23. My second favorite part of planning: making your playlist. Now, I don’t know about you guys, but I think one of my one true sources of happiness is making playlists (for myself & others). I LOVE discovering new music and predicting what I think other people will enjoy listening to. Pick some classics that everyone can sing and dance to, pick your favs (hello, it’s your day) & pick Bohemian Rhapsody. Just trust me.
24. Finalize your dinner menu and make it something GOOD. And definitely give yourself time to eat it!
25. Figure out who’s giving toasts. Next, place bets on who is going to act out that scene from Bridesmaids when Kristen Wiig & Rose Byrne are giving their respective toasts.
26. Make sure you know what’s happening when throughout the day – as in figure out when prep is, when photos should start, if there’s a first look, when the ceremony starts, cocktail hour & reception. This will also help the photographer BIG time since we operate on the same schedule that day. (Also very helpful: make a list of all family members you want in photos and dedicate a time block to that).
27. Purchase & resize the rings if need be! Those are kind of important!
28. Touch base with all your vendors, send them their respective schedules & meet with your photographer to establish a definite timeline and checklist of photos you want.
29. Send out the RSVPS!
30. Have your bachelor/bachelorette party and definitely don’t say it’s your “last night of freedom”. Tacky.
31. Track down any stragglers that didn’t RSVP and ask them why they are the way that they are.
32. Oh, get your marriage license.
33. Mail out any invites to your rehearsal dinner
34. Make a dress fitting appointment in case you did too much cake tasting
35. Be sure everyone is paid up to what their respective contact states!
36. Go over your timeline with hair, makeup, photographers etc
37. Make the seating arrangements – ok maybe THIS is the part everyone dreads. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, refer back to step #3.
38. Write your vows – make everyone want to laugh with your comedic wit or cry with your beautiful sentiments. Good luck!
39. Delegate the small/nothing tasks to get any unnecessary stress off of your shoulders and onto the shoulders of whoever is in your way that week.
40. Text the group chat about your timeline so everyone is on the same page
41. Don’t forget to pick up your dress or tux!
42. Set aside any lingering checks/payments for your vendors
43. Send the final guest list to your caterer/venue
44. Break in your shoes especially if they look like they hurt
45. Pack for your honeymoon
That’s it! You did it! You made it to your wedding day! And only 45 things?? Piece of cake! And you have over a YEAR to do all of that? Guys, do you know how many times in over a year you can do 45 things? You got this.
Good luck & happy planning xx